What is Motivation?

“We should be taught not to wait for inspiration to start a thing. Action always generates inspiration. Inspiration seldom generates action.” –Frank Tibolt

Ruth came to me because she wanted to take up exercise. She had previously been walking 2-3 times a week, but she wanted to start Zumba classes and take yoga and work out on cardio equipment at the gym. She didn’t have a weight problem, but she was in her 40’s and believed that it would be good for her to begin a regular exercise program.

As is my practice, I asked what she was would commit to doing in the one-week period between our coaching calls. She said, “I will work out 3 times this week.”

When she returned the following week, I said, “How did the exercise go?” She said, “I didn’t do it. I was tired a couple days and then my friends asked me to go out one night and another night I wanted to be at home with my kids.”

Woman in hammockI followed up: “So what kept you from doing the exercise?”

“Well, other things came up.”

I said, “When you told me you would exercise, what did you want at that time?”

“I really wanted to exercise.”

“What changed?”

“When the time came to exercise, I wanted to do something else.”

So I asked, “What made you choose not to exercise?”

“I didn’t want to do it at that time.”

“Ruth, if you could identify a place from which you made that choice where would you say you chose from?”

“I chose from how I felt at the time,” she said.

“Where else might you choose from if you weren’t choosing from how you felt about it?”

“Well,” she said, “if I am understanding you correctly I guess I could choose from the commitment I made to myself when I told you that I would exercise 3 times this week. I could choose from the commitment I made to improving my health.”

It was not easy, but Ruth began regular exercise. Once she stopped waiting for the same feeling of wanting to exercise that she had when she promised it, she freed herself up to decide from a place of commitment. She closed the gap between the Ruth who made the promise and the Ruth who carried out the promise.woman running

It is repeated across the board in my clients – we choose based on how we feel. When I speak to my coach, I feel inspired and motivated and I WANT to do it. Then comes the time to carry that out and I don’t WANT to do it. So I don’t.

I hear a lot about “motivation,” as if we can only take action if we FEEL motivated. It is empowering to discover there is no feeling required, but just a grounding in what we are committed to.

Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.” –seen on Facebook and seemingly anonymous

About the Author

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Cami McLaren

is the owner of McLaren Coaching. She has been coaching professionals and leaders since early 2008. She runs Transformative Coaching Essentials, a coach training program that produces first rate Professional Coaches and "Coach-Style Leaders." She coaches individually and works with organizations to improve communication, time management, productivity and ultimately bring greater results.

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