Coaches often say hope is not a strategy, and about one kind of hope, they're right. Reading Frank Ostaseski's The Five Invitations, I found a distinction that has stayed with me. Ordinary hope waits for something outside us to deliver. Mature hope asks something very different of us.

We already talk this way: part of me wants one thing, part of me wants another. Parts work takes that seriously. Through a client who yells when she's angry, I walk through naming a part, getting curious about it, and finding what it's trying to protect. It may surprise you.