Mirror, Mirror

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Mirror, Mirror Once I was sitting in a meeting with a lawyer. When I looked at him, I realized he had spilled coffee on his shirt. No one said anything. I wonder if he saw it in the mirror later. I wonder how he felt when he realized no one had told him. Feedback Feedback: […]

The Size of Us

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The Size of Us I was in spin class and the instructor said this: “I know I am a lot. I’ve been told that my whole life. But you know what? I’m enjoying it! I won’t try to be less for you.” I am spinning, spinning and I am thinking. “Wow.” I have also been […]

Coach-style Leadership!

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Coach-style Leadership! It is a different way to lead. Whether you are designated as a supervisor, manager, or not, you are a leader! You get to choose to lead in your life. And at work. But often there is not sufficient training to step into this position and be effective. So we do the best […]

The Power of Language

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“In coaching, we are all about change and growth and getting what you say you want. In support of this is our concept of “accountability” as, “the ability to account for my choices and my results.” This means when we make a mistake, we are neutral and we look at what we have done (choices) and […]

Lack and Attack

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“Change the voices in your head Make them like you instead” –Pink, “F**king Perfect” So much of our suffering is invented. The Buddhists will tell you that pain (those crappy things in life and our emotional reactions to them) is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Suffering occurs in the ways that we attack ourselves on […]

Puzzle or Mystery?

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Is this a puzzle or is it a mystery? Don’t decide too soon! A puzzle is something solvable. It has one right answer. I love this definition of the verb “puzzle”: to “solve or understand something by thinking hard.” This makes me laugh. Hard thinking seems to be what we do when we don’t understand […]

Communication – Turns out it’s not About the Nail

Want to learn to be an effective communicator? This video says it all. I know that when that other person tells you about their situation, you can see the problem. And that you can see (well, believe you can see) the solution. Plain as the nose on their face. I know it is crystal clear […]

Start Where You Are

Endings and Beginnings I woke up on Monday, January 3, ready to go – the beginning of a New Year! We get very excited about the end of one year and the beginning of another; don’t we?!? Even though I personally do not believe this is the only time in our lives we can consciously […]

The Value of Coaching: Illuminating Choice

Quick quiz: What is coaching? Okay; too broad? Try this question: what is the purpose of coaching? Coaching brings awareness to the choices you make and the choices you have in order to get what you want in your business and your life. When you hire a professional coach it will be with a desired outcome – more income, better […]

The Risk to Blossom

So I was in spin class… …the instructor talked about planting grass seed and how you have to rake the ground and lay down the seed and rake it again. (Yes; this is what we do in spin!) But wait – rake it again? What if this is a metaphor for our personal growth – […]