What Kind of a Day Will You Have?
Have you ever had this experience: You run into a co-worker in the hall at 11am and you say, “How are you?” She says, “Man, this day is terrible.” Or, “I am having the worst day.” I hear this a lot. Or on Tuesday, “This is the worst week ever.” I had heard this a […]
Accountability – the Decisive Element
“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can […]
Creating 2019
This time of year, we tend to think about where we have been and where we are going. There are many philosophies and practices on how to plan for the coming year. Let’s try something a little different. Close your eyes. Imagine it is December 31, 2019. Bring yourself there in your mind. Be in […]
The Power of Your Beliefs
There is a wonderful book I read by a doctor named Bruce Lipton. We read it in our coach training. It is called The Biology of Belief. On some level, coaching is premised on this idea – that our beliefs are what either propel us forward or hold us back. For some people, the idea […]
There is no Such Thing as a “Normal” Week
Sometimes it’s useful to just say what is so. There are stories we tell ourselves that are unexamined and do not contain all the truth. This is one of them. As you know by now if you’ve been reading my blogs, one of the things my clients do on their calls with me is “declare” […]
The Lens Through Which You See The World
This week, one of my clients told me that when she goes in for a job interview, often they look at her as if they are surprised at her age. She, like many people I coach, is afraid that she is too old to be offered the kind of work she wants. I said, “how […]
The REALITY of Enrollment
A Specific Model for Enrollment – REALITY We have been talking about the concept of “enrollment” – communicating with others in a way that they feel heard and that generates cooperation, collaboration and ownership. You cannot enroll if you cannot see reality. You must clearly see the other person’s reality to enroll them in anything. […]
Creating Habits – Summary (Habit, Part 9)
(Note: Scroll to the end of the blog to learn about our communication training offer ending Monday.) We (some of my clients and I) have been writing blogs on habits, their nature, their formation, etc. for a few months now. Today will be the last blog on habits. At least for awhile. Today I will […]
On Smoking (Habit, Part 8)
Another guest blog from a beloved client. Enjoy! Quitting smoking is easy…I’ve done it a million times. Yeah. That was me. That nasty, smelly, unhealthy, awful habit was mine…on and off…for decades. I started smoking when I was very young, nearly single digits. I mean, everyone did it. My mom and my stepdad both smoked. […]
How You See Yourself (Habit, part 7)
We have been talking about habits for awhile now. We have been addressing techniques for changing habits, building new habits, shedding old habits. Today I want to talk about the more internal reasons it can be challenging to change certain habits. Everything you do – and everything you think – is part of a new […]
