Communication Breakdowns, Part I
Dealing With Communication Breakdowns Part I: Communication and Fear One of the main things people come to coaching for is better communication. They may have other results they desire, but it turns out most of the things we want are in some way predicated on communication. So when my client comes to me and says, […]
How to Become a Coach-Style Leader
For those of you in supervisory positions – whether designated “managers” or leaders of another kind, this article is for you! A good leader is someone whose people are productive, innovative and excited to be part of the team. How does an employee — particularly one new to a leadership role — develop the skills to […]
The Importance of Clear Agreements
You may be saying, “I know the importance of clear agreements.” Even so, there is a good chance you are not getting them. Today I want to give you a simple tool that will transform the culture of your organization and improve the results you produce. It is called “the Complete Request.” (I am grateful […]
Free Your Mind
“Free your mind and the rest will follow” –En Vogue I facilitate a training on accountability. Organizations hire me to teach a form of accountability that calls for neutral and non-judgmental examination of the choices we make that lead to our results. We call this ownership for our results and our choices. It is not […]
Dominoes
I saw a speaker once on Buddhism and mindfulness give this demonstration: He set up dominoes – like you did when you were a kid – in a serpentine design on the floor. Then he hit one and it hit the next one and so on until they were cascading their clack clack clack and […]
A Simple Time Management Tip for the Week
Think about it. No really. Think about it. This is my tip this week. Effective time management can seem counterintuitive. I learned something this week from two different clients: the value in taking time to sit and reflect. We live in a fast-paced world. We are usually doing seven things at once. Rarely do we […]
What Would Wonder Woman Do?
Sometimes the answer is simpler than it seems. Sometimes we can find a way to develop that new behavior in an easy way. I speak frequently about neuro-linguistic programming and some of the techniques it offers. One of them is called the New Behavior Generator. Let’s imagine you want to do something and you are […]
What do you REALLY want?
People come to coaching for a variety of reasons: *make more money *get more clients *learn to communicate better *have better relationships with children or staff *lose weight *and on and on What is your current goal? The question we always ask our clients is why do you want that? And they will say “I want […]
The Second Arrow
In Buddhist philosophy pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. I have seen, coaching 100’s of people over the years, how this applies. Something happens – some failure, some event you don’t want and it causes “pain” – I don’t like it, I don’t want it, I wanted to get a different result. In coaching, […]
What Kind of a Day Will You Have?
Have you ever had this experience: You run into a co-worker in the hall at 11am and you say, “How are you?” She says, “Man, this day is terrible.” Or, “I am having the worst day.” I hear this a lot. Or on Tuesday, “This is the worst week ever.” I had heard this a […]
