What Listening Can do for Your Business
“Sawubona.” It’s an African Zulu greeting that means “I see you.” It has a long oral history and it means more than our traditional “hello.” It says, “I see your personality. I see your humanity. I see your dignity and respect.” In the African village context, where everyone knows one another, it’s an exceedingly powerful […]
The Main Reason we Don’t Listen
I pulled out and dusted off a CD from a long time ago – Suzanne Vega’s “Solitude Standing.” Love the CD – took me back about 25 years. Shockingly, it was released in 1987. I was listening to Tom’s Diner. It is a beautiful and poetic song. It is a poem about a moment in […]
The Voice, In Sum
“Change the voices in your head Make them like you instead.” –Pink, from “F**king Perfect” For the last couple months, I have been writing on this interesting topic. I could write so much more, but let’s stop here and summarize what we have learned: The Voice in your head No matter what you want, in […]
The Voice – A quote (The Voice, part 10)
Simply put, what we are doing in studying the voice is to find an unconscious and sabotaging behavior and make it conscious. Once you make it conscious, it no longer runs you.
“I Can’t” (The Voice, Part 9)
In spin class yesterday, I heard this: “You can do so much more than you give yourself credit for.” (Or something like that. I mean the music is loud and I am exhausted.) But I got to thinking. (Because it’s easier than focusing on pedaling) and I thought, you know it’s true that we don’t […]
My Eeyore Voice (The Voice, Part 8)
by Allison Post Harris What Cami calls “The Voice”—cue the vampire music—other people have labeled “gremlin” or “saboteur.” Regardless of what you call it, this Voice has always been there for me when I least needed it. Before I divorced my ex-husband, my Voice said “you should stay married for your toddlers. You should be […]
Styles of Communication…and a Quote
“The effectiveness of communication is not defined by the communication, but by the response.” –Milton Erickson What does this mean? So often we think that if we are “being clear” everyone should understand. We put together our communication in such a way that we feel we are doing a good job because of the nature […]
Jump in. Get Messy. (The Voice, Part 7)
The Voice. That stupid, wrong, incessant Voice. The one that tells me I’m not good enough, or smart enough, or talented enough. The one that tells me I’m not enough of this and I’m too much of that. I can never win with that one. And, the thing is, she’s wrong. She’s always wrong. I […]
The Persistent Nature of That Sabotaging Voice (The Voice, Part 6)
Another blog post from my favorite writer, comfort zone stretcher and personal growth guru–my mom! CELEBRATING 79 AND MY “LITTLE VOICE” I guess I always thought my little voice would disappear as I got older. Not so! I’m here to tell you that at age 79, my little voice is alive and well and LOUD! […]
“Not Very Smart” (The Voice, Part 5)
Yesterday, I returned from a week on Maui. I walked on the beach with my mom every morning and we talked about the Voice. We talked about where it comes from and what it says. I told her I learned that my voice likes to say, “That was stupid.” Or “that is stupid.” Or “that’s […]