How do You Break a Habit (Habit, Part 4)
How do you break a habit? Trick question. Sort of. You don’t break habits. To break a habit means to focus on NOT doing something. That’s a difficult task indeed. “Stop smoking.” What? How? The statement makes me focus entirely on what? On smoking. That is not useful. What you focus on expands. It’s a […]
Changing the Paradigm of “Aging” by Changing “Old” Habits (Habit, Part 3)
In my series on habits – creating them, sustaining them, changing them – I have invited guest bloggers. Here is one you know by now, if you follow my blog. My mom. She provides some great examples of habit changing. She also disputes the idea that we have no control over certain habits (and their results). _____________ […]
I Hope You Make Mistakes
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. So that’s my wish for you, and […]
Closing Down the Year
“Start where you are Use what you have Do what you can” –Arthur Ashe ____________________________________ We are nearing 2018 and some of you are getting ready to say what you want for next year. New beginnings are so fresh, so hopeful. I really believe that you can create a new beginning any time you want. […]
Your New Year’s Resolution – There’s a Better Way
Every year, the first week of January, you can’t find a parking spot at the gym. Every year by January 21, parking is no longer an issue. People have dropped off, gone back to “normal.” It’s so exciting to want change and declare it. I am a big fan of positive change. But change is […]
The Importance of Knowing Your Destination
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat. “I don’t much care where—” said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat. “—so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as […]
Beyond Goal Setting – The Power of Declaration
I always think, at this time of year, about new beginnings and about creation. Intentional creation. This is appropriate anytime really. You can always intentionally create. But for some reason our brains really like the first of the year. So I am taking a break from my “Habits” blog series and going to talk about […]
Identifying Habit (Habit, Part 2)
“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” –Warren Buffett In the next few weeks, we will be talking about habit – how to recognize it while the “chains of habit are light,” how to create new habits, let go of old habits, the nature of habit, […]
Perspective Changes Everything
There are many ways to look at your world. You see what you look for. This simple secret is key to so much. It is the theory behind gratitude practice. I.e., if you spend time being grateful, you will see more of what you are grateful for. Turns out it was there all along, but […]
The Power of Habit, Part I
I once heard someone say that everything we do – every day, all day – is either part of an old habit or part of a new habit. Last week, I posted this riddle: I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you […]
