The Case for Patience
All my life, I have been a person focused on accomplishment. On getting the things I want in this life. Whether that be the job of my dreams, or great relationships. But I have been reading lately about patience. Certainly I’ve heard talk of patience before in my life. But I did not see it […]
Creating Habits – Summary (Habit, Part 9)
(Note: Scroll to the end of the blog to learn about our communication training offer ending Monday.) We (some of my clients and I) have been writing blogs on habits, their nature, their formation, etc. for a few months now. Today will be the last blog on habits. At least for awhile. Today I will […]
On Smoking (Habit, Part 8)
Another guest blog from a beloved client. Enjoy! Quitting smoking is easy…I’ve done it a million times. Yeah. That was me. That nasty, smelly, unhealthy, awful habit was mine…on and off…for decades. I started smoking when I was very young, nearly single digits. I mean, everyone did it. My mom and my stepdad both smoked. […]
How You See Yourself (Habit, part 7)
We have been talking about habits for awhile now. We have been addressing techniques for changing habits, building new habits, shedding old habits. Today I want to talk about the more internal reasons it can be challenging to change certain habits. Everything you do – and everything you think – is part of a new […]
Habits That Hinder Progress (Habit, Part 6)
Below is a guest blog, from another attorney who I have the privilege of working with. Notice how insidious some habits are, how we might be doing them without even knowing it and how they get in the way of what we are after. Once you decide to change certain things, though, if you pay attention, […]
The Cell Phone (Habit, Part 5)
In writing my habits blogs, I thought it most useful to talk to other people and ask them to tell the story of how they changed a habit. I particularly love this one because it addresses something many people grapple with – the insidious nature of the cell phone. As Ali describes below, the phone […]
How do You Break a Habit (Habit, Part 4)
How do you break a habit? Trick question. Sort of. You don’t break habits. To break a habit means to focus on NOT doing something. That’s a difficult task indeed. “Stop smoking.” What? How? The statement makes me focus entirely on what? On smoking. That is not useful. What you focus on expands. It’s a […]
Changing the Paradigm of “Aging” by Changing “Old” Habits (Habit, Part 3)
In my series on habits – creating them, sustaining them, changing them – I have invited guest bloggers. Here is one you know by now, if you follow my blog. My mom. She provides some great examples of habit changing. She also disputes the idea that we have no control over certain habits (and their results). _____________ […]
Identifying Habit (Habit, Part 2)
“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” –Warren Buffett In the next few weeks, we will be talking about habit – how to recognize it while the “chains of habit are light,” how to create new habits, let go of old habits, the nature of habit, […]
What Should You Wear Today?
I just read this earlier this week: “But habits are like clothes. We can put them on and we can take them off. Yet, as we well know, when we get very attached to wearing clothes, we don’t want to take them off. We feel as if we’ll be too exposed, naked in front of […]