The Power of Your Beliefs
There is a wonderful book I read by a doctor named Bruce Lipton. We read it in our coach training. It is called The Biology of Belief. On some level, coaching is premised on this idea – that our beliefs are what either propel us forward or hold us back. For some people, the idea […]
There is no Such Thing as a “Normal” Week
Sometimes it’s useful to just say what is so. There are stories we tell ourselves that are unexamined and do not contain all the truth. This is one of them. As you know by now if you’ve been reading my blogs, one of the things my clients do on their calls with me is “declare” […]
The Lens Through Which You See The World
This week, one of my clients told me that when she goes in for a job interview, often they look at her as if they are surprised at her age. She, like many people I coach, is afraid that she is too old to be offered the kind of work she wants. I said, “how […]
The REALITY of Enrollment
A Specific Model for Enrollment – REALITY We have been talking about the concept of “enrollment” – communicating with others in a way that they feel heard and that generates cooperation, collaboration and ownership. You cannot enroll if you cannot see reality. You must clearly see the other person’s reality to enroll them in anything. […]
Creating Habits – Summary (Habit, Part 9)
(Note: Scroll to the end of the blog to learn about our communication training offer ending Monday.) We (some of my clients and I) have been writing blogs on habits, their nature, their formation, etc. for a few months now. Today will be the last blog on habits. At least for awhile. Today I will […]
On Smoking (Habit, Part 8)
Another guest blog from a beloved client. Enjoy! Quitting smoking is easy…I’ve done it a million times. Yeah. That was me. That nasty, smelly, unhealthy, awful habit was mine…on and off…for decades. I started smoking when I was very young, nearly single digits. I mean, everyone did it. My mom and my stepdad both smoked. […]
How You See Yourself (Habit, part 7)
We have been talking about habits for awhile now. We have been addressing techniques for changing habits, building new habits, shedding old habits. Today I want to talk about the more internal reasons it can be challenging to change certain habits. Everything you do – and everything you think – is part of a new […]
Habits That Hinder Progress (Habit, Part 6)
Below is a guest blog, from another attorney who I have the privilege of working with. Notice how insidious some habits are, how we might be doing them without even knowing it and how they get in the way of what we are after. Once you decide to change certain things, though, if you pay attention, […]
The Cell Phone (Habit, Part 5)
In writing my habits blogs, I thought it most useful to talk to other people and ask them to tell the story of how they changed a habit. I particularly love this one because it addresses something many people grapple with – the insidious nature of the cell phone. As Ali describes below, the phone […]
How do You Break a Habit (Habit, Part 4)
How do you break a habit? Trick question. Sort of. You don’t break habits. To break a habit means to focus on NOT doing something. That’s a difficult task indeed. “Stop smoking.” What? How? The statement makes me focus entirely on what? On smoking. That is not useful. What you focus on expands. It’s a […]
